In my mind

Emotions…a paradox

“Each day is an adventure in discovering the meaning of life”- Jack Canfield

True isn’t it….there are so many things to discover about life, one of those is your emotions….

Yes I am on a journey…a journey to find myself…..i am in search of the path which is actually meant for me and I would love to walk along that path. There are so many thing that goes in a mind, so many thoughts, so many emotions.. isnt’it!

“emotions”…. Different people define emotions in different ways. Some make a distinction between emotions and feelings saying that a feeling is the response part of the emotion and that an emotion includes the situation or experience, the interpretation, the perception, and the response or feeling related to the experience of a particular situation.  Negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, negativity, frustration and depression cause chemical reactions in your body that are very different from the chemicals released when you feel positive emotions such as happy, content, loved etc…m not being a nerd on saying all this it’s just that…you can very well see that everything is scientifically connected…..even our emotions.

Well, you know what…there are only two basic emotions that we all experience, love and fear.  All other emotions are variations of these two emotions.  Thoughts and behavior come from either a place of love, or a place of fear.  Anxiety, anger, control, sadness, depression, inadequacy, confusion, hurt, lonely, guilt, shame, these are all fear-based emotions.  Emotions such as joy, happiness, caring, trust, compassion, truth, contentment, satisfaction, these are love-based emotions.

 There are varying degrees of intensity of both types of emotions, some being mild, others moderate, and others strong in intensity.  For example, anger in a mild form can be felt as disgust or dismay, at a moderate level can be felt as offended or exasperated, and at an intense level can be felt as rage or hate. And the emotion that always underpins anger is fear.

Another aspect is that when we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love , we are open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance. I simply believe that we need to love ourselves, if we can’t then we also can’t fully open to our ability to love others and our potential to create.

The evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace  life.

So we can very well agree on the fact that love and fear are two most basic emotions and others are just the outcomes..don’t u think….well talking about controlling emotions then I strongly feel we can’t do this…emotions can’t be controlled.!

You cannot change or control your emotions.  You can learn how to be with them, living peacefully with them, transmuting them (which means releasing them), and you can manage them, but you cannot control them.

 Think of the people who go along day after day seeming to function normally,  and all of a sudden they will explode in anger at something that seems relatively trivial and harmless.  That is one sign of someone who is trying to control or repress their emotions but their repressed emotions are leaking out.

 The more anyone tries to control their emotions the more they resist control, and the more frightened people eventually become at what is seen to be a “loss of emotional control”.  It is a vicious circle according to me……

Still talking so much about all this, without emotions you are not a human being, you need to possess emotions to be called human. But you don’t have to hold on to your emotions, I have learnt that one should acknowledge their emotions and then let them go. No one has a perfect life which starts with ‘once upon a time” and ends with “happily ever after”; life begins with “welcome to the struggle and ends with “you are lucky to have survived the journey”. So if you wait for happy moments, you will wait forever but if you start believing that you are happy, you will be happy forever..!!! remember…all the problems are stuck between mind and matter so if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

One very important thing I have discovered is that ..maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place…..so smile through your tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.

Please do comment and tell me do you like the above views…! Thank you for reading.

What is life?

Being born in a middle class family , studying sincerely and passing every class with good marks then growing up to a teenage, having infatuations and falling in so called love or lust and then realizing  an aim of achieving something which can make your parents proud , which can earn you money, which can make you stand out from the crowd and if you don’t have an aim just keep going on and walking on the path that people around you show you, with a thought in mind that you’ll find out your own calling in between and then following others and walking and spending time in something you don’t really know if it is made for you or not but since you also don’t know your real aim for life you keep on walking aimlessly. In between you meet people who some way or the other influences your life, who matter to you, who help you too. You just keep on chasing something you feel will come to you on its own but suddenly you realize that I have some people who have expectations from me, who feel I am on the right path and certainly make something good out of it , our family , for their sake you feel you should not do things which might be right according to you but is definitely not right according to them, you have to carry on with that path because it is in a very big way  attached to your family , to the ones who have helped you to get to the point where you are standing , for their sake you have to continue with what you are doing. You feel you are trapped though you don’t let anyone know what all are going in your mind because you have not found out you’re calling yet. So certainly you don’t have the right words to explain it to people. After all this you feel like stop worrying and finally you forget about the calling you were expecting and you decide to spend a life which is already defined by people around. You decide to follow the life which can make you capable of earning money, which can make you capable of completing something which you chose because of people around you, and finally when you start doing that people feel wow! he or she is successful now, your parents are relaxed your relatives feel you are fine and achieved what you want but it is only you who knows from inside if you are satisfied or not if you are happy or not, if you are relaxed and relieved or not. And finally you forget everything that you use to think about at some point of time and then you spend your life exactly the way people have spent which is already defined. After being capable of earning money you get married then new people are there you need to take care of, new roles you need to play and life goes on. Now you have entered in to a phase where you don’t even know that you are trapped. You start living that life surrounded with so many other things that you don’t have time to think about something you were actually searching long ago. And life continues………..